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Love is About Having, Desire is About Wanting

"Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.

Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while desire is energized by it.

If intimacy grows through repetition and familiarity, eroticism is numbed by repetition. It thrives on the mysterious, the novel, and the unexpected.

Love is about having; desire is about wanting.

But too often, as couples settle into the comforts of love, they cease to fan the flame of desire. They forget that fire needs air.”

- Esther Perel

Photo from the movie Blue is the Warmest Color


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